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How to stop overthinking a decision (a 15-minute method)

Overthinking feels like preparation, but it is usually avoidance wearing a serious face. Here is the short method we use with people who have been circling the same decision for weeks.

Why thinking more stops helping

After the first few minutes you are no longer collecting information, you are replaying the same worries. The loop feels productive because your mind is busy. Nothing changes because nothing new is entering the loop.

The 15-minute method

1. Minutes 1 to 3: write the decision as one plain sentence, for example: Do I accept the new job or stay?
2. Minutes 4 to 7: write what you actually fear will happen if you choose wrong. Name the worst case in full. Most circles break here, because the fear usually looks smaller on paper.
3. Minutes 8 to 11: write what you would need to know to decide, and mark which items you can find out this week.
4. Minutes 12 to 15: set a decision date and pick one small action that moves it forward, such as one phone call or one question to ask.

A deadline is not pressure, it is a fence

Without a date, a decision can absorb unlimited worry. A date turns it into a task. Pick the date by asking how long a reasonable person would need, then take the shorter half.

When it is not really about the decision

If you decide and the loop simply moves to the next topic, the decision was never the problem. That pattern deserves proper attention, and for some people it is a job for a therapist rather than a coach.

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